Conflict and Distress
One of the most important things to do when separating is to keep children away from unhealthy conflict as much as possible. It is this conflict, and children being exposed to it long term, that can be harmful to children.
It is difficult for children to see the most influential and trusted people in their lives be apart. It is even worse when those people are in conflict.
Being brought into adult conflict causes children stress, and over time this can lead to them feeling anxious and distressed before and after staying with or spending time with the other parent, or they may start to have problems at school.
It is also important to remember that children can be brought into conflict when one parent often talks negatively of the other parent in front of them. By not speaking negatively of the other parent in front of your child, you can also help your children to be more comfortable to approach you about difficult topics and feelings.
It is important to remember, that if your child tells you something concerning in regards to their wellbeing, it is ok to act to keep them safe.
Separation can be a very high stress time for many people, and it can be easy for this to take up a lot of time and energy. This makes it important to set aside time to focus on your child’s best interest, so it can be good to take time and reflect on your hopes and dreams for your children’s future.