For many people, Mother’s Day represents the love they feel for their Mothers and is a day of togetherness and joy. As Sunday approaches, it feels different for many Mothers and children to previous years. Despite a recent easing of restrictions in WA allowing ten people to spend time together, travel bans continue within and outside the state. Some will be lucky enough to gather and celebrate with their Mother’s this Sunday. Whilst for others, a family’s concern around the risk to vulnerable members, will outweigh their desire to see them.
However, for some Mothers, and adult and younger children, Mother’s Day serves as a painful reminder of the loss of a significant relationship. Special commemorative days can give rise to a range of emotions for people whose Mother or child has died – and few more so than Mother’s Day. For some people that relationship may have been difficult and unreliable, and those left behind may experience confusing and quite different feelings about their loss when compared to those whose relationship was caring, encouraging and supportive.
Estranged children and Mothers often find Mother’s Day triggers an array of responses, including regret, anger, grief, sadness and so on. Most importantly, for many children and Mothers who no longer see each other, due to bereavement or estrangement, days such as Mother’s Day often leave them on the outside of a community – feeling bereft and alone.
During recent uncertain times – we’ve had to adapt to a lot of change! Fortunately, humans are quite good at learning and adapting to change, but we also rely on the stability of our social relationships with others. Impending Mother’s Day celebrations appear to be a good time for us to use this ability to learn and adapt towards finding ways of providing the connection with people we love, whilst also nourishing our requirement for stable and loving relationships.
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Written by Jennifer Poynton – Family Counsellor, Centacare Family Services Geraldton.
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